yea one small fact that you're neglecting. you spent hours talking with coach styx, you were basically prepared and somewhere in that head of yours you knew that not reacting will have a better effect than getting pissed. let's see the scenarios
a - you get pissed:
you blow your mind off, you yell, you scream, you shout, you curse, and she doesn't give a f***. because you're not next to her and you're not making a scene that would embarrass her. you're letting it all out of you and yet it doesn't get any points because of the distance fail.
b - you stay calm:
you say thx for the good times, it was fun while it lasted. now what the 'effin f*** is that puto? first thoughts in her mind after that - he is screwing someone else and was just waiting for this. it's simple really. remember that hot chick next door? well you may never get near her, but in the mind of your ex, you got so close that you can't get any closer. and after that - you are the good guy.
sure you're still everywhere with your mind, but you proved a point. and you and your mind will come to an understanding, but for the next few months i'm gonna give you a tip that's worthy of a life. if the chick tells you that it ain't your kid, you don't have to marry her no matter if it seems like a bright idea at the time. and trust me most guys find themselves in a situation where they get sick of it all and end up engaged to an ex/friend/someone random who was knocked up by a guy that split. and this is from experience. 100% of my older friends were in that situation, i was in that situation some 7 or 8 months ago, and i'm trying to pull my brother's ass out of that situation as we speak