Trouble...

Well on Saturday I left on a bus to go to Las Vegas to visit my grandma and great grandma with my mom. While I was down there I started becoming very uncomfortable between constipation, my urinary tube injury, and nothing to do. Typically I would pace around for a couple hours and then sit for a couple hours, and cycle between those two things until night came. On Monday we decided we would take the bus ride at mid-night to come back so I could better take care of myself. My mom started crying for the third time we were there and I did my best to console her, whatever it was that was troubling her, and then it became clear that I wasn't the one with problems.

I don't know how this all started but I know my mom has gone through a lot of medical issues. She got bit by a baby rabbit and the whole left side of her body became paralyzed, including the intestines etc. They had to take out a small piece of her brain because I believe it was lesion. This and lots of other stuff, the point being that she has had a lot of run-ins with medical issues and doctors etc. Apparently for four years she has had a Demerol addiction, only it's worse. She doesn't take it orally. She takes it through her veins but then she said something about how it could be fatal if an infection goes through her heart so she has started putting it through her muscles which breaks them down.

Demerol is a powerful painkiller that can be given out for medical purposes from a doctor. My mom says the addiction is basically the same as a heroin addiction and that physical withdrawals can last for around a week while the mental craving lasts forever. She also has some kind of a Zantec addiction which she has to take in order to not have seizures but I have a feeling she is taking more than she is supposed to. As far as I know that seems to be the secondary issue though.

Anyways I don't really know what to do. I'd like to talk to someone who has gone through a similar addiction and overcame it to see what their opinion is. Rehab would be pure torture but maybe for the greater good. All she really wants is to be around to see me but the addiction is extremely powerful.

I don't really know what I can do really. The whole thing is very sad. I'll talk to her some here and there. It would be helpful to talk to someone who has gone through an addiction like her's and see what their thoughts on quitting are. I don't know.

What about going to a psycologist? Do you think she'll do it? 'cause maybe she needs to talk, I dont think there's too much you can do, maybe look for forums or specialized sites, but i do think going to a psycologist is a valid idea, my mom went through some hardcore depression a few months ago and it helped her a lot.

Well I think the only real medical thing that can be done about something like this is basically lock the person up and taper them off of the drug until the worst withdrawals are through and then try to put them through counseling to prevent it from happening again. A psychologist would be able to talk to my mom and maybe encourage her to quit. I don't see it being very effective but I don't think it'd be harmful at all either. The only problem is that she would be forced to release this information to a professional and if she is willing to do that then she is willing to go the whole nine yards so to speak.

Wow, but rehab sounds so extreme you know? maybe she needs it but it's just hard to believe that something like that could happen to someone so close to you.. you know?

Oh my god! Who would have thought the symbol of innocence could cause so much damage! I have no idea what it is like to have that kind of addiction. But I hope sincerely that you and your family can get through these terrible turn of events.

AeldraAvitus wrote:

Wow, but rehab sounds so extreme you know? maybe she needs it but it's just hard to believe that something like that could happen to someone so close to you.. you know?

Rehab would be extremely difficult. If she was willing to go through it I would support her but I would never force her to do something like that.

breakyoudown wrote:

Oh my god! Who would have thought the symbol of innocence could cause so much damage! I have no idea what it is like to have that kind of addiction. But I hope sincerely that you and your family can get through these terrible turn of events.

Thanks BYD. Not many people know though. I was surprised she kept it from me all this time because I never thought she kept anything from me.

How old is she?

She is 35 years old. She looks pretty young though. Most people mistake me for her brother.

Wow she's really young. Talk to her about the options. Im sorry i cant help

Brother im so sorry to hear and if you ever need someone to talk to let me know and you have me . Now about addiction , My step brother had a addiction to meth , I know meth is alot different than pain killers but my step sister and myself helped him clean up , It took 9 days for him to go cold turkey but he can drive by a house and tell you if there making or useing meth . He still has the want to stay clean but the draw of meth is hard on him , The best thing you can do is be there for your mom , Never judge but be her son and her friend , Just give her your time , hope and pray for her . I wish you and your mother the best and remember if you need a friend im here .

Thanks Hate. It helps a lot. I'm going to just try to talk to her and make sure she's doing okay and do whatever I can if something is troubling her.

Dude, I'm so sorry. I've had my share of problems in life, both myself and with my family, but I am lucky enough to have not had to deal with addictions, other than cigarettes. I wish I could say something or help somehow, I just know how it feels to worry about a close family member. I'm here to talk whenever brother, don't hesitate to ask if you need anything

VR be there for her. it's a lot of s*** and it is going on fast, but she can pull it off. just be there for her

styx wrote:

VR be there for her. it's a lot of s*** and it is going on fast, but she can pull it off. just be there for her

Im Proud Of You Matej .

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AeldraAvitus wrote:

Wow, but rehab sounds so extreme you know? maybe she needs it but it's just hard to believe that something like that could happen to someone so close to you.. you know?

thats the scary part. other people can lie to me all the time, but if i found out my parents were lieing blatantly.....wow. just wow.

i recently heard a statistic that 12 step programs are very ineffective. i think rehabilitation has a much higher success rate. try looking into that.

oh, and now i understand the attraction to the whole black metal thing. you have my apologies.

VacuousReality wrote:

Thanks Hate. It helps a lot. I'm going to just try to talk to her and make sure she's doing okay and do whatever I can if something is troubling her.

Stay strong for her brother , Its the best thing you can do for her right now , Remember if you need a friend im here day or night . myself or kim is alwas on yahoo messenger so if you need a friend im here !

AeldraAvitus wrote:

Wow she's really young. Talk to her about the options. Im sorry i cant help

Im older than her , That sucks for me ... DAMN IM OLD !

hateyou1st wrote:

AeldraAvitus wrote:

Wow she's really young. Talk to her about the options. Im sorry i cant help

Im older than her , That sucks for me ... DAMN IM OLD !

Hahahaha dont worry hate, you are just like wine!

AeldraAvitus wrote:

hateyou1st wrote:

AeldraAvitus wrote:

Wow she's really young. Talk to her about the options. Im sorry i cant help

Im older than her , That sucks for me ... DAMN IM OLD !

Hahahaha dont worry hate, you are just like wine!

ahhhh that was so nice .. lol + rep